As I celebrate Halloween, I ponder, why do people PRETEND to be frightened on this occasion? There are real fears, yet many people choose to avoid them and live life in fear. Because they think fears decompose when they bury them. WRONG! The only way to make your life less scary is to face the fight.
The top 5 frightening fears:
1) I might fail and never achieve my dreams.
Face the fight: Embrace the idea that failure is part of growth. The only way that you can succeed every time without failing is that you’ve set the bar so low that it renders the journey meaningless. A person who fails is not the one who falls, but the one who stays down and gives up. What’s most important is what you’ve learnt and who you’ve become in the process. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Draw on this strength in your next attempt.
2) I will lose the people I love.
Face the fight: Don’t wait, make time for them. The only thing you can hold on to when they’re gone is memories. The only thing you do not want to have when they’re gone is regrets.
3) I may get seriously ill.
Face the fight: Prioritize a healthy lifestyle. Minimize or eradicate habits that are detrimental to health such as smoking, excessive drinking, late nights, and eating junk food. There are factors beyond your control, so focus on what you can control and influence. It may just transform your health!
4) I am getting old, and time is running out for me to do what I want.
Face the fight: Start NOW. Every stage in life offers new opportunities and experiences. You may have wisdom, insights, or resources now that you wouldn’t have at a younger age. Use experience, wisdom, and maturity to your advantage.
5) I’m scared of ending up alone and unloved.
Face the fight: Building relationships takes time, effort, sincerity, and reciprocity. Many times, you have to make the first connection. Start by being the person whom you will love, accept yourself, and reach out. Appreciation and love will come to an earnest soul.
A Happy Halloween is the one when you stop getting scared.
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